If you find the rare people who (truly) do want to see you win, stay riding with them.
“Most people don’t want what’s best for you. They don’t want you to grow.
They want the version of you that best benefits them.
This is why when you find a person or a group of people who truly want to see you grow, you stay riding with them.
They are few and far between.”
-Ray Zingler on Twitter
Most people don’t want to see you win. It’s sad because we live in a world full of an abundance, however small people with small minds will never have the ability to understand that.
Why is it that people don’t want you to become the best version of yourself? Why does it offend them when you start to grow?
It’s for 3, interconnected reasons.
1) A Scarcity Mindset
2) Selfishness
3) Ego
Despite living in a world full of abundance, a scarcity mindset will try to convince you that resources are limited. It will try to convince you that someone else’s success is a direct threat to the opportunity to create your own.
Worse off is that a scarcity mindset typically manifests itself into a fixed mindset because if one with a scarcity mindset believes this scarcity nonsense they get stuck in their ways believing there is never enough.
You know those people who seem to be stuck, but “never change”? It’s because the scarcity mindset is now fixed (unchanging).
Next up, we have selfishness. Selfishness is understood because it’s the default setting. We are hardwired to focus on ourselves, first. And there is nothing wrong with this. We should focus on ourselves first because without filling our own cup, we have no ability to start helping others fill theirs.
The problem, though, is that many (especially with scarcity mindsets) have the inability to turn selfishness off. They live in me, me, me world and anything anybody else could be doing in their own lives may negatively impact me.
“If that guy grows in his profession, I won’t get what I want out of him anymore.”
Nasty, nasty stuff.
Last up is the good ‘ol Ego.
Ego isn’t a bad thing. We all have egos. Ego is nothing more than a sense of our own self-esteem/importance.
The problem arises when we inflate our internal perceptions of ourselves to the point it clouds our vision of reality. “I’m better than this person, she doesn’t deserve this!” Insecurity 101.
This is why it is super common for people to not want to see you (truly) grow into the best version of yourself.
So if you do find a person/group of people who want to see you grow, who want to see you win..
Never stop riding with them.
