The simple act is exactly what separates the winners from the losers.
“Commitment is not an assumed trait.
It’s a critically important learned skill that requires intentional, consistent practice.
When you bail kids out of commitments, you put points on the other teams scoreboard.
You want a winner?
Teach them to lean into commitments.”
-Ray Zingler on X
I fully understand that commitments are hard.
I get that doing what you said you’d do, long after the mood you originally said it in dissipated, is a real challenge.
But this is exactly what makes commitment so important.
We must recognize that most people are not going to stick to commitments. They just flat out aren’t going to do it.
So what do you think happens if you learn the value of and STICK to commitments?
You immediately differentiate yourself.
This is why success is again, simple, but not easy.
There is a tremendous amount of net gain that comes from simply sticking to your word and doing what you said you’d do.
Commitment is the pre-requisite to success.
If there is value to commitment, then why do so many struggle with it?
It’s because they never learn it or have it baked out of their psyche.
They get bailed out.
They aren’t held accountable.
“Oh, it’s not a big deal if he misses that work out or practice.”
Are you kidding me?
It’s a massive deal.
This is why we have a bunch of adults walking around trapped in children’s bodies feeling as if they are entitled to success.
I always laugh thinking back to my childhood. I would have been horrified to ask my parents to skip a practice or miss an obligation. The thought of asking them didn’t even cross my mind.
Fast forward a few years later and it was confirmed to me that we were in hot water when I reached out to a parent because I hadn’t seen their son, an active member in our gym, and she told me, “I asked him if he wanted to go and he said he just wants to play Xbox.”
WHAT! You asked a teenage male if he wanted to go to a physical commitment that he’d committed to? And you’re surprised he chose a video game with virtual friends when not held accountable?
I mean I was blown away, but that’s our world.
Commitment doesn’t just happen.
It’s a process that requires consistent exposures, encouragement, and coaxing (especially) when things get tough.
Most are going to bail out, teach them to lean in.
The simple adjustment is what separates the winners from the losers.
